Sebastian
After a week of being home I awoke to the blissful noise
of the kitchen faucet as it drenched the dishes in its path, I slid out of my
brothers twin bed, not wanting to stand for fear that if I stood up I would be
forced to face the day. I crawled on my belly trying to avoid the sun beam and
pushed the door shut with my index finger as it made a loud slam. I let out a
sigh and tried to spin back around crawling back to the bed which for the past
week had become my safe haven. I was half way back in bed when the door was
pushed open with great force as I turned back to look one eye half shut, hair
half wavy which curled at the ends, missing a sock and ass in mid air there she
stood. My mother, she stood in the middle of the door frame as her statuesque
body that seemed to command attention with every inch of her 5'6" small framed body, as if to
demand the seriousness of her energy. She stood firm with her arms crossed
across her chest, her hair was as dark as winters Cole her eyes as brown as
chest nuts which seemed to magnify the light brown freckles across the nose
that we both shared and her skin which I had always admired to the flawless
nature with its perfect hue of brown, her lips were clenched as she forced the
words, "Get out of bed" through her teeth. "I'm not ready"
as I said in mid yawn as I slithered back under the sheets. With a swift step
the blankets were ripped off of me as I turned to my side with my knees to my
chest and yelled, "I'M TIRED!!!! GET OUT!!!" as my mom turned to walk
out still holding the sheets she turned and said, "I get it, I understand what
it feels like to have the rug pulled from underneath you in mid step." as
I sat up and looked at her I could see the hurt in her eyes as she herself
being newly separated from my father she too was starting over. "You have
to keep walking, you might stumble here and there, the most important thing is
to stand back up dust yourself off and never let anyone think they got you
down." I turned back in bed and pressed my face against my pillow,
"You don't understand mom." as I let the tears slide down my
face. How I wanted to tell her
everything but I couldn't I was so ashamed and confused about the whole
situation. I thought college would magically turn me into an adult but I failed
to realize that with an adult life came adult problems. "Well I'm here
whenever you want to talk." as I still had my back turned to her I could
feel the warmth of her hand as it hovered over my back but she never made
contact. I feel as though she wanted to show me comfort but struggled to in
which she didn't know how. I could hear her picking up my clothes off the floor
as she quietly exited the room which was a big difference from when she first
entered demanding to be seen she now wanted everything but to be seen. As I sat
up I looked out the window wiped my tears out of my newly woken eyes and
watched my little brother go higher and higher in the swing and thought to
myself how I wanted to go back to simpler time. I watched him push himself out
of the swing seat and land on the ground on his knees he underestimated the
height that he was at as he began to cry, I could hear my mom yell, "Maybe
you should go higher next time."
which made me smile.
My mom was not a traditional mother that coddled her
children. My mother raised us with a stern hand. We were raised to the idea
that children should be seen but never heard. We were always well dressed and
clean never a dirty spot on our clothes. If we were hurt we were never to cry
in the presence of anyone because to quote my mother, "If someone hurts
you and you cry they will always know where they could hurt you and will use
your weakness to continuously beat you." I remember being young and
holding in my cries all day from bullies at school and coming home and going to
my bedroom and crying because to cry in front of my mother was not only a sign
of weakness it was also a sign of defeat. If we were even in a fight at school
my mother had a very clear rule, "Make sure you win, because if you fight
in school and you lose not only will you have gotten your ass beat in school
but I will beat your ass when you get home." I always made sure to win. I
grew up very strict and even though we didn't have the physical affection of
love like a hug and or a kiss we knew we were loved and that my mother would do
anything for us, she was always our savior and our biggest ally. We were raised
to think logically and to meticulously choose every move we made and consider
every counter effect that might result in our actions. Which is why I found it
so difficult to come out at this particular time in my life. This was before it
was considered hip and cool or trendy to be gay there was still a real danger
of being gay in society at this point in time. I had to choose my next move
carefully, I knew that my next move had to be to continue school. It was the
only thing I had at the time that seemed to please everyone. I had promised my
grandfather I would finish college and I was set on making him proud of me. As
I walked out past all the baby pictures of us in the hallway and the grandfather
clock that seemed to tick louder than the chime itself, I watched my mother
look out the window at my brother on the swing set. I sat down at the table,
"I heard him cry. Is he ok?" I asked in a soft spoken voice. My
mother looked back at me then back at my brother, "Yea he is ok, you know
him he is a little daredevil. He is the toughest kid I know. I'm going to have
my hands full with that one. he's isn't scared of anything... look at him he is
hanging upside down on that tree now." I cleared my throat. "I have
been thinking, and I think I'm going to enroll in the community college here,
what do you think? I was thinking that I could get my AA here until I decide
what my next move should be." My mom took a moment and look back at me and
said, "I think that's a great idea." as she smiled this warm feeling
rushed over my body, it was as if I was searching for her approval the entire
time and I felt incomplete until that very moment.
The next couple of months I emerged myself in school work
continuing the perception of the perfect student that I had at this point
became the personification of. Around this time there was a newly popular
social networking boom that hit teens and young adults with a great force of
intrigue and fascination. Yes before
Facebook, Instagram and Eharmony there was a social networking site called
MySpace. This was a social meeting place everyone could create and customize a
page to their personality and reach out to people they have never met to create
a connection or connect with lost friends. I being a young adult of sorts used
this site as most did which was as a speed dating site. Now it was not only to
meet guys I used it to post videos of my favorite songs and create a top 10
friends lists. Now I bring this up to shed light on the real reason why this
site was so important. It was where I first met SEBASTIAN, behind the veil of
cyber space I reached out to this really cute guy who's default picture was of
him wearing a blue bandana that was folded across his forehead and on top of
that bandana he wore a black hat. My very own Miklo (Blood in Blood out
character) Now I know what you must be thinking, "Why would anyone think
that was attractive?" but he was... and continues to be so. I was obsessed
with him. He was my everything at that time.
Sebastian lived in Las Vegas which was about 4 hours from
Blythe and we would talk every day. He
was my escape from my day to day life and soon he held me captive with his
calls, his voice and eventually his arms. I felt completely trapped by him I
was his willing captive a participating slave and it felt amazing to feel
completely owned to someone I felt as though I was his and he was mine. My very
own, my beloved. I felt understood and accepted which could be a more addicting
drug then air itself. He was my breath and my will to survive. It was amazing to find someone who was so
comfortable with being gay which for me at that time was such a struggle.
Sebastian or Bastian which he was more commonly known as was a genetic
phenomenon not only was he beautiful he was undeniably a gift....a gift from
GOD or whatever deity you happened to believe in and if there was nothing you believed
in Bastian had a way of making you believe in not only yourself but the
possibility that there was a higher power, due to the fact that this man could
not have been placed here by mistake. He was soft spoken but every breath
seemed to glide and dance across the wind and into your ears and every word
seemed to be more important than the last. He had an essence about him that
made you want to know him more in any capacity that he would allow you in. he
was 5'10 and worth every inch I myself only being 5'8 seemed to feel so small
in comparison but then again I never felt so protected until I was around him...his
hugs seemed to consume you, engulf every inch of every self doubt that you
might have had about yourself. His eyes were as blue as a clear sky on an
Easter Sunday....I could always find myself in those baby blues, whenever the
world seemed dark or unbearable. I knew at the end of the day those eyes could
bring me home, I felt safe and comforted by those arms that I seemed to later
in life not only search but yearn for . His dirty blonde, brown hair meticulously
placed, every strand had a home everything so organized and as perfect as he
was. But with the sweets came the sour, or what I would eventually learn was that not
even a strong, perfect man could fix a scared, broken boy.